When Is It Okay To Call A Woman A Whore? | Thought Catalog

Kim Davis, who opposes gay marriage, committed adultery, divorced three times, and had kids out of wedlock.

Source: When Is It Okay To Call A Woman A Whore? | Thought Catalog

This article is more about how Kim Davis should be talked on about her misusing her power and that, as quoted:

Anyone who thinks Liberals and Conservatives are morally distinct should think again. People are terrible all over and they’ll say whatever suits them at any given moment without any fear of being logically or morally inconsistent. Are you a Liberal woman? Believe in female autonomy and the right to divorce and have kids whenever you want? That’s fine, unless you do something other Liberal people don’t like. Then you’re a whore. Now that is hypocrisy.

I think this a problem we all face. Yes you can critique her on that if she is so conservative why is she like that but thinking of this as abling to brand her a “whore” is non productive I believe. Yes Davis should be criticised heavily on her homophobic nature and she should also be criticised on misusing her power, being mean to people in general. However, I do not necessarily think shaming her marriages to four guys and all should be really put up. One can question her that if she has the right to do then why can’t people have their rights too. That if she is able to do that so should everyone else.

Something about me

I attempt to be as honest as I can be.

I know this won’t sit well with many people. I know people may think something rude about me. For example, I honestly write about falling out with friends who may be 10 years my junior and many people may be wondering why make such a young friend. I grew up in a different era, there was no alarm in making younger friends as long as you stay respectful and respect their parents’ wishes and have them know play-by-play what you are doing (which I did). In my geographical context this is also not considered abnormal or anything taboo. I have also nieces and nephews around that age so I am accustomed to making friends with people younger than me. I also was a school teacher for a short time and I find that young people, not all but some, can have matured, refined opinions. It was a short stint because I needed to focus on my studies and because the corporate mentality of the administrators and their gross behaviour with teachers made me unhappy so I quit.

Also, I have made friends with people also like 70 years of age as well. Made pals with a man who was around 80 years old and passed away recently. If I had a falling out with one of them I would say so too. As I said for me the concept and the feelings related in friendship are not unusual because it has become, I have noticed, mainstream to think ill of people who make friends with people much older or younger than them. It is considered unsavory and at times implies something really negative and unjust. I am not like that at all. If I did something wrong and the friendship fell away it is because of difference of opinions or like a shouting argument not any actions to hurt anyone on any side’s part.

I think many people also do not like my poems because I am pretty honest about at times feeling sad or depressed or even feeling disillusioned. I know that people may not like that and I accept that though it does not put you on a soapbox to judge me. You can judge my work and you can only judge me when you know me some and see if my actions are bad. That is even true for you guys and me. I can’t judge you personally without knowing you guys personally.

A large factor, methinks, at the moment, that people may not be engaging with me — is that I am Muslim. Look, being Muslim and Non-White is not a crime. I have seen many people I  follow online bash Muslim philosophy and religion because something ISIS is doing. In my opinion, that is quite rude and ignorant. Can you stereotype all Christians or Jewish or Hindu people, etcetera as one people as in a state that all occupy? I think now I live in a culture that is similar to what Jewish people faced many years before. They were so ignored by top-class European countries and only Middle Eastern nations did not care about what their nationality and/or Faith was. I am not going to apologise for being Muslim neither do I think anyone, even in those times, apologised for being Jewish, Catholic or Protestant, and I am happy they didn’t. What terrorist groups do has nothing on me. Many ideologies, both religious and secular, have been misused by humans (example Communism and Capitalism) so I am afraid that those people are at fault not really the principles associated with that thought, religion or culture.

The reason I am writing this is because I feel people subtly may not be really supportive of me as a writer or as a person of such letters because they want to evaluate me on the same methodologies on what they consider just and right. I would be happy if you ask me straightforward questions and also ask me about what kind of person I am before you take that stance. There is no absolutist, universal scale of judging people always or even evaluating them so I hope that you can find in in your hearts and minds to allow me in for a while and give me space and see what I am really about.▬

No Apology | Mehreen Kasana

This was such a great article I decided to  quote some of its intense yet true parts. I truly thank Mehreen Kasana from my soul to do this as a person for both equality and a social voice for those people who cannot do so, so easily:

By the time I have figured my criminal-by-default status out, we are on the Manhattan Bridge headed toward Canal Street, which means there is mobile reception. My old white friend is on his iPhone telling his friend something about ISIS. He looks at me every single time he says ISIS or Islamic State. I take it lightly; I don’t want to yell at a guy who looks like his joints would fall out of place if I raised my voice. But it’s insulting and several people look in our direction, at my keffiyeh and at him enunciating ISIS while talking to his friend on the phone. That’s when I debate engagement or flipping him off. I decide on neither but I reach into my bag, which alerts him, and pull out a bomb in the form of a plastic bottle containing tap water.

I drink the water, man. I’m tired.

In this binary, the Bad Muslim is the constant malefactor. Since s/he is fed up with attempting (in distressing futility) to show his/her legitimacy as a human being – forget the title of American as it becomes unavailing in this case – s/he refuses to apologize for Islam. The Bad Muslim is the exhausted Muslim. A Muslim whose morale has been drained by perpetual anxiety, hostility and social marginalization for being seen as a criminal for acts of violence he or she has never committed. The Bad Muslim is the Muslim who makes the mistake of thinking he or she is as human as the next person and should be given a modicum of respect as anyone else would receive, such as the random white American who is never harangued to apologize for what KKK did or modern day Neo Nazis do. The Bad Muslim is unhappy with being profiled “randomly” at the airport, for being rejected employment because his or her name sounds a little too Muslim ergo a little too Al Qaeda or ISIS or Taliban or what-have-you. Unless he or she is rich, a Bad Muslim – who is often a working classindividual, a mere wage earner – cannot afford the temporary getaway financial stability provides from this interminable environment of contempt and xenophobia. The Bad Muslim is often aware of RAND-constructed typologies that identify ideological tendencies in Muslim communities and exploit inter-sect divides to promote US strategic interests

No amount of polls of Muslims denouncing ISIS will authenticate our humanity to the average Westerner who trusts propagated tropes from a culture industry more than anything else. It does not matter to the average bigot whether 126 senior Islamic scholars hailing from various parts of the Middle East, Europe, South Asia, North Africa and beyond theologically make clear in an open 24-bullet letter that the deeds of ISIS are entirely un-Islamic because to the average bigot, Islam is beyond redemption and its followers deserve to be punished by virtue of the faith they follow. It does not matter if one explains, as Alireza Doostdar does meticulously in this essay, that ISIS is not a religious problem but a political exacerbation that necessitates a contextual understanding of its chronological development and proliferation. This hostility is not innate. One is not born with vengeance for a specific group of people. It is instilled and socialized through social and institutional production of ideology from the State, media outlets, academia and everyday social exchange. It is manufactured by ever escalating dosages of premeditated images, sound bites and seductive rhetoric that lures one into regurgitating falsities about a people. It reaches to a point, as we see today, where simply appearing to be Muslim (as if there is a specific aesthetic embodied by us) elicits some of the most unwarranted suspicion, invasive questions and in many cases, outright violence.

Take it this way: In 2011, white men constituted over 69% of those arrested for urban violence and yet black men made up for the majority of the prison population thanks to the American prison industrial complex. The majority of school shooters and mass murderers in the United States are white men (97% of them being male and 79% being white) from upper-middle class backgrounds. But for some curious reason, Twitter or Facebook or even your favorite news channels have not seen a flood of apologies from white men under the hashtag #NotInMyName. I already expect indignant comments to tell me that these men were lone cases who had mental disorders and no friends because it’s the go-to reason when a white man decides to shoot schools up. Unfortunately, brown and black men cannot use the same excuse. 


Any country with a majority acts like this. Even in my country indigenous people are always mistreated, murdered, harassed and also denied jobs because who they are. Religion at times make no point but when it does I say the same thing. For example, it is also how you look. The fair skinned or even brown Nepali looking man is not as trusted as a brown skinned or even fair skinned majority or, get this, foreigner. Then my country also has a bad reputation of gender discrimination as in not female or male but to the transgender/transvestite community known as Hijra. The Hijras are always being ostracization and due to this ban of their proper recognition they do  act more flamboyantly and do deeds that otherwise they wouldn’t care to do. Social impregnation of values of acceptability or colouring of class, race, gender, sex and religion do have repercussions. Please be attentive.

Thank you for reading.

No Apology | Mehreen Kasana.